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y to the extent that a) it has any predictive value about her future behavior, b) you are interested in predicting future behavior because you are seeking a partner for a satisfying LTR (and possibly leading to marriage,) and c) you goal is truly confined to determining whether she is a viable candidate for you and it does not include imposing a moral judgment.1.

If it does not meet your standards, tell her that she is too much of a slut for you. This is unlikely to lead to any successful relationships and it is also a bit hypocritical, because all of us have some skeletons and dark secrets in our closet.

Suppose a girl is 23 years old and has had 17 sexual partners. She has either has many partners recently or she became sexually active at an early age.

It is possible that she has had a recent awakening and has revised her attitudes and behaviors, so you would need to consider other factors.3. Suppose a girl is 62 years old (like the lady I am currently dating.) Imagine that she has had 17 sexual partners (I have no idea how many partners my lady has had because I haven’t asked.) Is that a high number of partners for 40+ years of sexual activity.

If she was a virgin bride who got married at age 18, got divorced 5 years ago, and has had 16 partners since then.

yes, that is a high number.Suppose the same lady got married when she was 25 and has been divorced for 14 years. Seventeen partners does not seem too high.3.

I want to know how good a provider you would be for me if we got married and had children, so tell me how much money you have in your savings account as of today.” You tell her your balance, she says that is not enough, and she is sorry but you are not a suitable candidate.Think about how harshly you would feel about that and them reconsider your answer to this question.

Thinking about it, perhaps a person’s predisposition to having sex with multiple partners is a desire to transform. It is a way of shedding off the old and becoming something new.

It is more about sacrifice, as love itself is about sacrifice, vulnerability, and surrendering. When a woman or a man has many past partners, especially outside of monogamous relationships, one has to wonder if that person is still in a state of flux or if that person is truly ready to sacrifice a portion of their own desire and happiness for the sake of something greater than themselves, the relationship.

What I am is saying that it holds its own sort of joys and part of it requires contentment in one’s current state of Being, while working within the boundaries set in the relationship. At that point, growth is only possible within those boundaries lest the boundaries are broken and the relationship put in peril.

@Goodwifie even so, will that person stay that way. So many later down the line crave the novelty they enjoyed while they were sleeping around.

That isn’t fair to the monogamy minded partner, and can be quite painful, even if there is still a great mutual love and adoration. Yes I agree with that.

But there are some people who really shouldn’t get married.

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If you’re looking for someone to settle down with, having sex with her the first chance you get probably isn’t the best idea, according to Dating Coach. “It’s easy to find someone you find attractive enough to sleep with.

“Given that most people hop into bed first and then ask questions, why not just reverse the process. Go out on 5-6 dates, enjoy some foreplay, and when you think you’re ready to be in a relationship, then you have sex.” So, before you end up between the sheets with the next girl you meet, figure out if you’re looking for a one-night stand or a “One Life Stand” as the British band Hot Chip sang about.

, a sex educator and speaker. “Pleasure’s not a mechanical thing,” Byrden says.

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Instead of focusing on sex as a performance, Bryden recommends looking at it as playful. “How turned on can you get without moving straight to the genitals.

“Can you explore together in a way where you are highly aroused. ”Related.

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These ideas can help. Be gentle and supportive as you let her know you want to work together to find a solution and a new intimacy normal.

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When a chick expresses doubt that you’ll keep asking her out, it’s safe to assume she’s going to become clingy after you seal the deal, warns Meyers. The reason: Women produce more oxytocin (the bonding hormone) during sex than men.

If you’re totally into her, don’t sweat it. But if you’re looking for something casual you might want to bow out before taking her to bed.

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If she had a change of clothes in the middle of the day, you should start asking questions. Someone cannot be distracted without reason, so you should be concerned when your girlfriend is not paying attention.

As her boyfriend, you ought to know about anything that is worrying her. If she is distracted, but you don’t know of any issue warranting it, then it could be that she is cheating.

Both of you should show each other affection and be caring towards the other no matter what. Once she stops giving you attention like she used to, she may be sleeping with someone else.

If she keeps appearing and disappearing at odd hours, it is because she has found someone else. She no longer wishes to have a bond with you, and she will tend to need more alone time than usual.

There is no small thing to lie about in a relationship because it will give your partner a wrong impression. The question lingering on your mind will be, “what else could she be hiding.

Lying is bad because it dents. If you catch your girlfriend lying about her location, it could mean she no longer cares about what happens to the relationship.

Intimacy is the wheel that keeps a relationship going. When the wheel is not in good shape, it indicates that things are about to go south.

It is usual for her to postpone lo*vemaking because of stress, exhaustion or sickness, but this should not be every day. If it is stress-related, she should be able to return to previous intimacy levels as soon as possible.

Different couples handle their phones in different ways. To some, a partner’s phone is off limits, while to others, it is okay for a partner to view the other’s phone without permission.

If all of a sudden your girlfriend does not want you to touch her phone, then something sinister could be going on. One of the signs your girlfriend is sleeping with someone else is if she panics when she sees you operating her phone.

You know what they say. a person is never busy – it only depends on whether you are on her priorities or not.

If you can no longer make any last-minute plans together, you should be concerned. She may even start doing things she dislikes just to avoid being with you.

You will notice that she doesn’t enjoy doing things she liked doing with you. Something will always pop up to prevent her from being around you.

It will reach a point where you will only be reminiscing about when you and your girlfriend used to contact each other all the time. A girlfriend who is sleeping with someone else will start to be distant for no reason.

You should tell where your girlfriend is even when you cannot reach her. This means you can ask her friends or colleagues where she is when you want to reach her.

Women tend to stop caring too much about their appearance once they have settled in a relationship. They will purchase new and only for special occasions like the anniversary of your dating life unless it is something she has been doing all through.

A cheating girlfriend will wear old clothes when going out with you and rock the new ones when she leaves alone. She will always be excited when leaving home and comes back in high spirits, but the mood changes once she sees you.

A cheating girlfriend will be curious about your whereabouts all the time. She will be enquiring about your schedule not because she cares about you but because she wants to know the best time to cheat on you.

She will insist that you meet only at certain times and specific locations. She is probably afraid that you may catch her in the act hence she gets worked up when you don’t stick to your schedule.

There is a reason for saying everything has a time and season. Interacting with friends and colleagues should be done during the day, while nighttime should be devoted to your partner.

Texting before sleeping or even in the middle of the night means there is something she is hiding. You will be forgiven for thinking that she has met someone else and she wishes to be with him instead of you.

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If it’s just physical, it is probably lust, especially if you have nothing else in common and have different life goals. Thanks.

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She Prioritizes You If she doesn’t prioritize you, she doesn’t love you. This is just the truth of the matter.

But you’ll see it manifested as real effort. You’ll know that you’re a priority to her.

Sometimes a little unbiased advice from a professional goes a long way. 2.

And for good reason. It can be overwhelming to deal with sometimes.

A woman who loves you will become extremely jealous when she fears that you may choose to allocate resources (time, attention, affection, money, etc.) to another female over her. But while this may not be pleasant, it is an indicator that she values you—or at least your resources.

She Always Tries to Be around You Does she seem to always want to be by your side. Is she constantly trying to spend time with you, visit you, and invite you to do things with her.

A woman who didn’t love you wouldn’t be so interested in spending so much time with you. 4.

This is understandable. We have to prioritize ourselves if we wish to survive.

And this means that she may actually be more interested in listening to you than in telling you about herself. If she seems intensely interested in hearing what you have to say, and takes your words seriously, it’s a good sign that she’s displaying genuine burning desire for you.

She Legitimately Cares about You [Automatic Pinterest Embed] A lot of women tend to have an indifferent attitude toward most men. They may desire for other people to be happy in an overarching sense, but they’re not necessarily going to go out of their way to make it happen.

She’ll legitimately act in a caring and nurturing manner toward you. She’ll focus on trying to make your life better by doing nice things for you.

She Tries to Impress You [Automatic Pinterest Embed] It’s no secret that women love attention. But most women don’t feel the need to impress anyone specific unless they care greatly about that person’s opinion.

If she goes to great lengths to try to impress you, either by dressing up, bragging about her accomplishments, , etc. These are all pretty surefire signs that she may actually be in love with you.

She’s Always Flirting with You If she truly loves you, she’ll want to keep that ‘spark’ between the two of you alive. She won’t want to risk letting it die out.

But here’s the bottom line. If she flirts with you and/or otherwise engages in when she’s around you, that’s a sure sign that she’s into you—and that she may very well love you.

She Cares about Your Future Plans [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Is she intensely interested in what you plan to do in the future. Does she care about your work and life to such an extent that it almost feels like she wants to understand the ‘roadmap’ of how you want your life to progress.

Further Reading 9. She’s Your Biggest Cheerleader [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Does she cheer you on when you accomplish big things, celebrate your victories, and encourage you when you feel down.

But if she goes out of her way to be your cheerleader and to let you know that she genuinely believes in you—well, that’s a definite sign that she desires you, and may even love you. 10.

Of course, as a , you’ve probably already got your life put together. But sometimes, even high value men can use another pair of hands when things get super busy.

She Tries to Make You Happy “Never a lip is curved with pain that can’t be kissed into smiles again.” — LOVE QUOTE DAILY (@lovequotetrends) A lot of women are really only out to make themselves happy. Once again, this makes sense.

But when a woman actually wants to make you happy as well, and puts a sincere effort into doing so, that tells you something about her. It tells you that she sees a relationship with you as so beneficial to her survival and happiness that making you happy has become a priority for her.

She Remembers Details Pertaining to You [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Does she seem especially keen at remembering specific dates, times, end details pertaining to you. Humans only have a certain amount of mental bandwidth.

So if she seems to: Be good at remembering small details about you Be interested in showing you that she’s good at remembering such details These may be signs that she’s trying to tell you that you mean a lot to her. It may be her way of saying: “Hey, look at how much attention I’m paying to you.

She’ll Try to Be Your Best Friend Friendship is important to every relationship. Granted, a dating relationship with a woman is going to be different than a platonic friendship.

If she loves you, she’ll want to be the most important person in your life. She may even try to compete with the rest of your circle to be your very best friend.

She’s Willing to Work on the Relationship [Automatic Pinterest Embed] In our modern dating culture, dating apps provide a nearly infinite number of potential prospective partners to anyone willing to go to the trouble to download one, upload a few pictures, and create a profile. This makes it easier than ever to walk away from a problematic dating relationship and start a new one.

If she loves you, she won’t want to walk away and start something new. Not only will she believe that trying to make it work with you is her best option, but she’ll also show you as much through her behavior.

Further Reading 15. She Gets a Little Flustered When You’re Around [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Do you ever notice her acting a little bit flustered, giggly, goofy, or even just a little bit weird around you.

It’s true. As a woman I once dated used to say to me: “You sure know how to make a girl feel self-conscious.

It’s hard to keep my thoughts straight.” 16. She Thinks You’re Perfect, Despite Your Flaws [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Nobody’s Perfect.

But when a woman legitimately loves a man, she tends to see right past the flaws to all of the good things that exist alongside them. And I’m not talking about the blindness of , either.

But sometimes, infatuation is mistaken for love. Infatuation would make you blind to someone’s flaws because of the crazy sex hormones that are surging through your body.

She Values Your Opinion [Automatic Pinterest Embed] In order for a woman to truly love a man, she needs to be attracted to him. Sexual attraction is an important component to romantic love.

And if a woman truly respects you, she’ll value your opinion. Be careful of women who don’t seem to place any value on your opinion.

And if she doesn’t respect you, she definitely doesn’t love you. 18.

To be inspirational means that you strive to lift others up and encourage them to achieve the great things they’re capable of. If a woman enters your frame and seems determined to lift you up and inspire you as a man, there’s a good chance that you’ve found someone who’s not only a high value woman but also someone who loves you.

She Talks Positively about You [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Does she often brag to her friends and family about you. When she speaks about you in public and behind your back, does she say good and positive things.

And a woman who puts a man down in public has zero respect for him. By contrast, a woman who speaks positive and encouraging words about a man in the presence of others definitely displays affection towards him.

She’ll Make You Feel like You Have a Partner A woman who loves a man will strive to be a partner and a helpmate to him. She won’t want him to feel like he’s alone in the world.

This is an important value to look for when trying to measure how much a woman actually loves you. 21.

It’s not always easy to be honest with your partner. So a woman who’s honest with you is also showing you that she’s courageous enough and values the relationship enough to do so.

If a woman truly loves you, she’ll show you through her honest words and actions. 22.

In contrast, women crave the attention and validation of men they respect and are highly attracted to. This actually creates a dynamic spawning ground for romantic love to spring to life.

Therefore, if a woman seems to like you and treats you with the utmost respect, that’s a sure-fire sign that she may be truly falling in love with you. 23.

Now, it’s not so uncommon for ‘random acts of PDA,’ for example, to take a lesser role in a relationship after you’ve been married for years. But the truth is this.

She’ll want to sit on your lap, hold hands, hug you randomly, etc. If a woman wants to do these things, there’s a reason for it.

And if it persists past the ‘infatuation’ stage of the relationship, there’s a good chance that it’s an indicator of real love. 24.

And this is a definite sign that she may be in love with you. See, women don’t just seek the approval of random men, even if she’s going on dates with them.

To her, his approval will be one of the most important and valuable metrics in the universe. She’ll crave his approval and admiration—and when she makes him happy, she’ll feel accomplished and successful.

You’ll See Actions, Not Excuses [Automatic Pinterest Embed] Does she often give excuses for why she’s not acting in a truly loving fashion. Well, here’s the truth.

She’ll show her love through her actions. It’s not rocket science.

Look at how she behaves. Behavior speaks volumes louder than words.

If she behaves like she loves you, she probably does. If she behaves like she doesn’t, she probably doesn’t.

If she doesn’t display acts of love toward you anymore, then there’s little reason to continue to spend time with her or to pursue the relationship. Further Reading 26.

If a woman tells you that she loves you, odds are good that she does. She may not be perfect, and her love for you may not be perfect.