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y to the extent that a) it has any predictive value about her future behavior, b) you are interested in predicting future behavior because you are seeking a partner for a satisfying LTR (and possibly leading to marriage,) and c) you goal is truly confined to determining whether she is a viable candidate for you and it does not include imposing a moral judgment.1.

If it does not meet your standards, tell her that she is too much of a slut for you. This is unlikely to lead to any successful relationships and it is also a bit hypocritical, because all of us have some skeletons and dark secrets in our closet.

Suppose a girl is 23 years old and has had 17 sexual partners. She has either has many partners recently or she became sexually active at an early age.

It is possible that she has had a recent awakening and has revised her attitudes and behaviors, so you would need to consider other factors.3. Suppose a girl is 62 years old (like the lady I am currently dating.) Imagine that she has had 17 sexual partners (I have no idea how many partners my lady has had because I haven’t asked.) Is that a high number of partners for 40+ years of sexual activity.

If she was a virgin bride who got married at age 18, got divorced 5 years ago, and has had 16 partners since then.

yes, that is a high number.Suppose the same lady got married when she was 25 and has been divorced for 14 years. Seventeen partners does not seem too high.3.

I want to know how good a provider you would be for me if we got married and had children, so tell me how much money you have in your savings account as of today.” You tell her your balance, she says that is not enough, and she is sorry but you are not a suitable candidate.Think about how harshly you would feel about that and them reconsider your answer to this question.

Thinking about it, perhaps a person’s predisposition to having sex with multiple partners is a desire to transform. It is a way of shedding off the old and becoming something new.

It is more about sacrifice, as love itself is about sacrifice, vulnerability, and surrendering. When a woman or a man has many past partners, especially outside of monogamous relationships, one has to wonder if that person is still in a state of flux or if that person is truly ready to sacrifice a portion of their own desire and happiness for the sake of something greater than themselves, the relationship.

What I am is saying that it holds its own sort of joys and part of it requires contentment in one’s current state of Being, while working within the boundaries set in the relationship. At that point, growth is only possible within those boundaries lest the boundaries are broken and the relationship put in peril.

@Goodwifie even so, will that person stay that way. So many later down the line crave the novelty they enjoyed while they were sleeping around.

That isn’t fair to the monogamy minded partner, and can be quite painful, even if there is still a great mutual love and adoration. Yes I agree with that.

But there are some people who really shouldn’t get married.

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If your girlfriend is always busy and never has time for you, it may be a red flag that she’s seeing someone else. It could be a fling, or it could just be her not taking you seriously or losing interest in the relationship.

If she isn’t spending time with you, she might have a boyfriend or meet someone at work. She might have another secret life she doesn’t want to tell you about.

Talking to her is best when you start having doubts about your girlfriend. Please don’t keep it inside.

Tell her you’re hurting and would love more time with her. It could also mean she is busy with important things with work or.

Just be sure to do it in the right way.

George Morgan / EyeEm//Getty Images. “The vagina is an elastic tube,” says , MD, an OB/GYN at Avon Pointe Family Health Center in Avon, Ohio.

But she says, “It will go back to its original elasticity in a woman who is of premenopausal age.”. That’s thanks to the hormone estrogen, which helps maintain elasticity and lubrication in the vagina.

If Wedding Crashers taught us anything, it’s that Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson are one heck of a comedic duo. If it taught us anything else, it’s that you must avoid Stage Five Clingers at all costs (and sleeping with tons of women just for the sake of sleeping with women will probably leave you feeling empty inside).

From BDSM classes, to orgasmic mediation sessions, she found out a lot about herself. What she learned, she says, was that she had a lot of shame around sex, and a huge fear of intimacy that caused her to avoid it.

After having sex with her ex-boyfriend that first time, Persimmon talked to him about her insecurities. She says it required her to open herself up to vulnerability, which she’d never done before.

The relationship lasted only a few months, says Persimmon, who recently got out of another, longer term relationship. She says the relationships taught her a lot about the importance of vulnerability and communication.

-certified sex educator and author of many sexual advice books, including “How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know.” There are occasions in a woman’s life when she just doesn’t want sex, but that doesn’t mean she’s dysfunctional, noted Dr. Paget.

Paget, however, believes that the percentage for women is inflated, and that the everyday pressures of work, family, and other responsibilities might be why women answered negatively to survey questions about wanting sex.

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Dating &amp. Relationship Coach Expert Answer See if she’s leaning in and turning toward you.

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Relationship Coach Expert Answer She might lean away or back off when you’re trying to get intimate. Check in with her if you want to be really clear on how she’s feeling.

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When and how did you first learn about sex. What was it like the first time you had sex.

What’s your favorite part about having. How much eye contact do you like to have during sex.

How long do you usually like to have sex for. What are your favorite.

Have you ever tried anal. Would you want to try.

Would you ever want to. Do you like having.

What do you like about it. Do you usually like having rough or gentle sex.

Do you like sex with the lights on or off. Where do you like penis-owning partners to ejaculate.

If you could only have sex in one position for the rest of your life, which would it be. What’s a totally overrated sex position, in your opinion.

How do you feel about using lube. How do you feel about incorporating.

Do you have any specific boundaries for sex—in other words, things you’re definitely not willing to do.

On the flip side, if you consider yourself to be adventurous in bed, you might not want to put in time seducing a woman that’s reserved between the sheets. “A woman who’s prudish will fight your touch when you’re kissing and fooling around.

Granted, if you ask any women personal questions about her sex life too early on in the relationship, she’s apt to raise an eyebrow. But if your questions are somewhat reasonable and not completely creepy, she should be fine responding after you’ve gone on a few dates.

Tips to save face when things get weird between the sheets.

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Log your symptoms and see how specific symptoms are connected to different cycle phases. Cardiovascular health If you do not have sex on a regular basis, you are at a higher risk of developing cardiovascular disease.

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When Your 15-Year-Old Daughter is Having Sex with a 20-Year-Old Man Dear Mark, My youngest daughter just turned 15 today. While having lunch with my older daughter, who is 23 and living outside of our home, she told us that our 15 year-old had confessed to her that she lost her virginity to a 20 year-old man who often goes to a library activity that she attends each Thursday.

The reason we’ve continued to allow her to go is because she seems to love it so much. She’s homeschooled, so she doesn’t think she gets enough socialization and has gone out of her way to “fit in” with the other kids/young adults by giving up a lot of the stuff that she used to love, but will do just about anything to go each Thursday.

What would you advise about this. Our older daughter swore us to secrecy and I want her to have a friend to talk to (who better than a sister.

This guy that she was with before contacted her on Facebook today, saying he wants her back. She has violent mood swings, which makes her difficult to deal with and I want to handle things properly so that she doesn’t hurt herself or run away or anything.

My older daughter offered to take her to Planned Parenthood for birth control pills, but that certainly doesn’t take care of diseases or our other concerns plus I’m not sure how I could pretend that I didn’t know about the birth control if she leaves it out like she does just about everything else. How should I react in such a situation or should I take her myself.

Thank you so much, Mark. I’m so glad that I have you to turn to.

Unfortunately (or fortunately, as the case may be), you absolutely need to confront her on this. Some “swearing to secrecy” cases have to come out into the light – and this is definitely one.

She should be grounded FROM the library. Advise her of the consequences in the event she is found at the library or near the 20-year-old man.

Lastly, when the dust has settled, have “the conversation” with her re: sex as follows: Sometime, when things are calm and everyone is getting along, have a conversation about sex with your daughter. Start with asking her what she may already know.

You want her to open up about a very private subject and feel safe talking about it. Body gestures of placing your hand over your heart or gaping mouth are not helpful.

it is natural to hear the staccato beat of your heart in your ears at this moment. Use responses like: “okay”, “yes, that’s true”, “no, that is not true”, “that is a common misconception.” Avoid responses like: “a body can do that.

“, “let me grab a pen.” You have to stay in control of the conversation. After hearing what knowledge your daughter has, be sure to correct any false information she may have learned on the internet, at school or the local teen hang-out.

Move on to the psychological aspect of sex and intimacy. Sex should not be taken lightly like choosing which bowling alley to go to on Friday night, no matter what the single neighbor next door does.

Let her know that the scared, confused and embarrassing feelings that she has are normal and she should be feeling this way for a long, long, long time to come. This is after all a preparation talk about the future, distant future.

Peer pressure is an issue for all teens. It is okay to be teased for being a virgin, let her know it is a way of breaking down her defenses and making her do something she is not prepared to do.

Being labeled Most Likely to “Remain a Virgin through High School” is an honor. Warn about relationship pressures she will face.

Feed the image of how he will look twenty years down the road with a pot belly, bald, drinking and flatulence problem. This could be the new form of birth control.

Discuss the worst urban legends to reassure her that they are in fact, urban legends. Holding hands and kissing will get you pregnant.

Men suffer violent and painful deaths from a sudden shift in blood flow to their “closest best friend.” We women have collectively proven this urban legend false for centuries. marriage still exists.

You know, there was hope for this one. There is a lot of good information under divorce statistics to prove this one false.

Having a baby at a young age or the desire to have one is a rising concern in our society. Guiding and explaining the trials and tribulations of parenthood can fall on deaf ears here, so be resourceful.

Imagine how many couples are video tapping the birth of their children. I’m sure there are proud parents out there willing to share in their experiences.

Try not to lay this on too thickly, eventually you do want grandchildren. Unfortunately there is also the consequence of sexually transmitted disease in our society.

Thank goodness the American Medical Association has issued pamphlets on various diseases for questions and concerns. Hotline numbers are located on each one for additional reinforcements.

Take as many as you need to decorate your daughter’s room. There is no such thing as being over informed.

Now, good luck, and don’t forget that mental list. Mark Hutten, M.A.

She gets very defensive when questioned about anything related to her mobile phone A sure sign she has cheated is she gets very defensive when questioned about anything related to her mobile phone, and anything related to her phone bills. I would go so far as to say she takes her mobile phone, or most likely SIM card, to the bathroom with her when she takes a shower, or just to get away from you when she is on the toilet.

So look out for secret or second mobile phones. Another sign she has cheated is if her phone has a lock screen when it used to be unlocked.

She suddenly needs a lot of alone time “Can you watch the kids for a few hours tonight. I just need some time to myself.” If your wife or girlfriend asks for time for herself, there’s a chance she may be meeting someone.

You would grow tired of that pretty quickly. Or if she is going somewhere and doesn’t want you with her in fact she tells you to go away.

She gets unusually defensive when you ask about where she’s been or who she was with An excellent clue. She gets defensive or argues when questioned about where she’s been and who she was with.

To be honest, if she does this when you ask her about anything, it’s time to dump her. If she can’t trust you, why should you trust her, right.

You notice that her clothes smell different from before, and they’re not the same clothes she wore yesterday She goes out stays out and comes back in with different clothes on or her clothes smell different, this means she was somewhere she shouldn’t. And don’t forget the same flags if she comes back with “her clothes” smelling like perfume, this is also a definite giveaway.

Your girlfriend/wife has a sudden change of mood – for example, going from being happy one minute to sad the next. She could be remembering times with him or they’ve had an argument.

What you have to do here is find out what has happened and who/what has made her change so quickly. Also if she is very defensive about how you feel or what you are saying is also a sign something has occurred between her and the other guy.

Another point related to this is that if she is telling you that you are not a man and that she needs to find someone else, this also means something has happened between her and the other guy. This can be related to more than one thing, for example, A) she’s been with him recently B) he was not very good in bed, or C) he wasn’t very good looking and she feels that you need to be better than this.

She tells you she has a boyfriend when questioned about her odd behavior If she tells you “I have a boyfriend” when questioned about her change in behavior, it is a definite clue. This is a major giveaway.

If your partner says this to you, get out of there. You don’t want a two-timing loser in your life and she is calling the shots so you can see how much respect she has for you.

She has broken contact with your friends and family for no apparent reason This is a major sign of cheating. If she has broken contact with your friends and family for no apparent reason, then this is a clear sign that something fishy is going on.

If she tells you that it is because of something else, again she is hiding something. If she breaks contact because you mention it to her, this may also mean that someone from the outside world knows what’s going on or that the guy she’s with, has told her that you are asking around about them.

Another point is that if she tells you that it is because of her family and then turns around and says that they don’t like what she’s doing, this also means that she has been caught out and is trying to cover her tracks. 9.

If your partner starts coming up with excuses as to why she can’t go out or spends more time in than ever before, this means there’s definitely something going on. Another point to note here is the fact that if she starts spending more money than before on clothes, hair nails – anything like this it means there’s definitely could be something going on.

She has started dressing sexier than usual and acting flirtatious around other men This means she has started dressing sexier than usual because of the guy she is cheating on you with. She may also start acting flirtatious around other men because this means she can go home and brag about it to the other guy.

And here comes another point – if she approaches any man (including you), it is a major clue that something fishy is going on behind your back. Now another man is interested or actually in a relationship with her, she’ll be flattered and will like the attention.

Her self-esteem will go up and she will dress and act more provocatively in general. 11.

She uses these games as a way of getting herself out of trouble or to cover her tracks when she is doing something wrong or she doesn’t want you to know about it. So when these games start up again, you should take the opportunity to find out what’s really going on behind your back because this gives her an excuse not to answer questions if you ask them directly.

She has a lot of unexplained mood swings and is very unpredictable in general If she has a lot of unexplained mood swings and is very unpredictable then this could mean that there’s something going on behind your back. If she’s not being straight with you, she’ll have some problems controlling her emotions.

That her mind could be in confusion about the situation and she’s trying to keep her emotions steady. Another point is that if you approach the subject with her and ask what’s wrong, she’ll play it down and probably say something like “Oh nothing” or “I’m fine”.

She breaks down crying about how much she misses him/her and how they “love each other”. If she is breaking down crying about how much she misses him/her and how “they love each other” then this is a major clue that she might be cheating on you with this person.

Or she misses him/her and wants to talk about how much they love each other because he/she is the only person to whom she can speak about this situation because it would be very suspicious. This is a major clue if she is very upset-more upset than she should be that there could be something more going on between them than longstanding friends.

Or maybe they plan to get together and she has feelings for him more than she can admit. 14 Your wife starts taking birth control (or the pill) If your wife starts taking birth control then this is a major clue that something may be going on behind your back because the only reason why she would take it (in absence of other medical problems) would be to prevent getting pregnant.

This makes her more likely to act inappropriately with other men outside of their relationship. 15.

This is usually because she has lost a lot of weight suddenly — and it’s not from dieting. She suddenly starts dressing sexier, wearing shorter skirts or tighter tops that show off her figure.

She avoids making eye contact. A woman who is guilty about something will try and avoid eye contact with you at all costs because that’s how people who are not trustworthy look when they’re trying to deceive someone.

Maybe she’s acting a little more bitchy or distant than she used to be. Or maybe she seems nervous and short-tempered – which is very unusual for her.

She becomes extremely critical of you. You may find that suddenly she has a laundry list of things that are wrong with you.

She suddenly becomes disinterested in sex. Has your sex drive decreased drastically.

She suddenly starts asking about your schedule. If she’s always been fine with you going out and spending time with friends, but one day asks where you’ve been and whom you’re with, there may be cause for concern.

She always seems to be tired. Maybe she’s using the “I’m tired” excuse all the time.

And if you ever stumble upon her diary while snooping and see that she’s suddenly started to write about having migraines or feeling sick every day, it’s definitely something to look into. She seems suspiciously happy.

And chances are, you’re not the person doing this to her.